In a world where divisions, judgment’s, and assumptions are running rampant I ask of you one thing…remember me.
Remember who I really am
If at any time someone were to come to you with a story of me that didn’t sound right, I would hope that you would extend to me the benefit of the doubt. Remember who I am and who you truly know me to be.
This goes hand in hand with one of my previous blogs about ‘suspending judgement’.
This request is especially necessary when there is a blanket statement such as
“All lawyers are crooks”, or maybe “
“All millennials are entitled”
“All Christians are judgmental”
“All….(you fill in the blank”
You get the idea
Obviously the above mentioned examples don’t all apply to me, but I would hope that if you ever heard a blanket statement about a group that you may associate me with, you’d remember who I am.
The same can be true about personal statements (otherwise known as gossip), if you heard a tidbit of gossip about me and you thought in your head, that doesn’t sound like the Sharlene I know, then chances are it isn’t…go with your gut.
I feel like when we hear stories about people we know, our first inclination is not necessarily to defend the person but rather be shocked and maybe even say “I can’t believe that” while at the same time entertaining the thought and believing it.
Whether it’s a blanket statement about one particular people group or a particular tidbit of information on an individual you know, consider the person, think of who you know them to be, and you will be able to come to your own conclusion.
So I ask again, remember me and who I am - and I will remember you and who you are.
Enthusiasm is contagious
Don’t you just love being around people who are excited about life and where they are going? They have plans and goals and energy, and it’s contagious
When I talk to people who are like this, it spurs me on to get moving forward with the plans I have, it gives me that same energy and drive that they have.
In the same way, negativity can be contagious too. When you hang around someone who only focus’ on what is wrong in the world and their life, it doesn’t take to long for that dark cloud to start hovering over your head too.
I am well aware that there is a lot that is wrong in this world right now, and I have no shortage of people who are more than happy to point this out to me, but there are things I can fix, and things that are out of my control so I am choosing to take positive steps forward whenever I can and let the nay sayers stay behind.
It’s not that I am sticking my head in the sand and ignoring all that is wrong around me, I’ve been known to vent a time or two myself, lol.
What I am saying is that I chooses not to set up camp there.
Knowing that enthusiasm is contagious, and that I love being around positive enthusiastic people, it makes me want to be a better person so that I can pass these attributes on to those who come into contact with me, you know, like the song “It Only Takes A Spark”
It’s not easy keeping the ‘negative’ at bay, but we are happier for it. It might start with turning off the news, being mindful of how much time we we spend with those who bring our focus from positive to negative, and if we have to…even speak to ourselves words of encouragement if nobody else is around.
A cheerful heart does good like a medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
Happy New Year!!!
I know I’m a little late but better late than never.
I don’t know about you but I have great expectations for this new year.
I am expecting to have a very productive new year.
I am expecting to have a healthy new year
I am expecting to have a new year filled with adventure
I expect restorations of relationships in this new year
I expect a new year filled with joy
I expect more financial freedom in this new year
As you can see, I have many great expectations for this new year.
Expectation is a step up from hope.
With hope there is a slight element of doubt, “I hope I get an A on my exam”
where with expectation there is a certain amount of assurance, “I expect to get an A on my exam”
The difference between the hoping and expecting an A is the amount of assurance you have, and the amount of assurance you have may be determined by the amount of effort you put in.
There is soooo much more to this conversation of hope, expectation, anticipation, and assurance than I am covering here, but it’s a start.
So, I’m not going to sit back and wait for all these wonderful things to take place, chances are I’m going to have to go out and be pro-active and work hard at seeing some of these things happen, raising my assurance level.
Expectation and hope…they are worth holding on to.
So that’s what I am doing, I am expecting with confidence that great things are going to happen in 2022, and I will do all that is in my power to make these things happen.
What are you expecting in 2022
Most people have the ability to hear people, but not everyone has the ability to listen.
Listening goes beyond hearing the words that are being spoken, it goes further into focusing your mind, closing off any distractions, and not only hearing the person’s words but feeling the emotion that is attached to the words.
Listening is intentional not accidental.
When my children were young and I asked them to do something, often times I could tell from their response whether they were just hearing my words or if they had listened. If I suspected they were not listening I would ask to repeat to me what I had just said, and if they could not, I knew they were not listening.
It’s not too hard to determine if someone is listening to you or not. If they are not listening their eyes might be darting around or unfocused, they may not be engaged in the conversation, and if they start talking about something completely unrelated to the conversation. That is a sure sign that they have mentally left the conversation and have moved on.
Another sign of when someone isn’t listening is that they interrupt the conversation. Their interruption may even be with something that is related to what was being talked about, but typically it means they were so eager to jump in with their experience that they had stopped listening to the conversation.
It can be quite frustrating to be talking and not having the other party engaged in listening.
Here are a couple of questions you can ask yourself if you find that someone is not listening, or if you find yourself disconnected from a conversation.
I am saying all this because every now and then we all need a little reminder regarding our listening skills. To some people it is a natural thing, effortless, and to others it is a skill to be worked on.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this and if you have any additional tips for how to be a great listener. Feel free to leave me a message in the comment section.
Say a Prayer Tonight
I wanted to share this song with you today as I feel it's message is an ongoing one. We wrote it as a reminder that we should always be praying for those who have fought, and continue to fight for our freedom.l
Lest We Forget
What do you think of when you hear the word kindness?
If you look up the definition of kindness, here’s what you’ll find. The quality of being friendly, generous and considerate.
Sadly, there are a number of people who mistake kindness for agreeable or compliant.
I recently saw a post where a friend was expressing an opinion, in a very respectful way, only to see another person respond with “oh no, please be kind”. This response made me scratch my head for a moment. There was nothing about the post that was unkind. What I realized was that the opinion expressed in the post did not line up with the opinion of the respondent, therefore the respondent considered it unkind. How interesting.
Personally I see this as a good reason to not express personal opinions on social media (and so did this friend as it was shortly after this that they left social media all together).
This is where the phrase, “I guess we’ll just have to agree to disagree” comes in handy. We don’t have to agree with everyone out there, but we should still be friendly, generous and considerate, or in a nutshell…kind.
This is hardly a comprehensive thought on kindness, but it’s certainly a good start to a clearer understanding of exactly what kindness is, so as we move forward and we encounter someone who we may think is being unkind, maybe we can stop and think for a moment, is the person truly being unkind, or do I just not agree with them on this point.
Ironically there may be some out there that would consider this blog “unkind”, and to those I would simply say “we will just have to agree to disagree on this”.
Each and every one of us is influenced daily by forces seen and unseen. Sometimes we are aware of these influences and sometimes we are completely taken by surprise.
I am a wife, a mom, a nana, a daughter, a sister, an aunt a niece and a friend. Family, friendships and faith are things I place a high value on, in other words, relationships. I am looking forward to reaching out and connecting with you through this blog, and it is my hope that I can bring a glimmer of encouragement and hope as we embark on this journey together