Most people have the ability to hear people, but not everyone has the ability to listen.
Listening goes beyond hearing the words that are being spoken, it goes further into focusing your mind, closing off any distractions, and not only hearing the person’s words but feeling the emotion that is attached to the words.
Listening is intentional not accidental.
When my children were young and I asked them to do something, often times I could tell from their response whether they were just hearing my words or if they had listened. If I suspected they were not listening I would ask to repeat to me what I had just said, and if they could not, I knew they were not listening.
It’s not too hard to determine if someone is listening to you or not. If they are not listening their eyes might be darting around or unfocused, they may not be engaged in the conversation, and if they start talking about something completely unrelated to the conversation. That is a sure sign that they have mentally left the conversation and have moved on.
Another sign of when someone isn’t listening is that they interrupt the conversation. Their interruption may even be with something that is related to what was being talked about, but typically it means they were so eager to jump in with their experience that they had stopped listening to the conversation.
It can be quite frustrating to be talking and not having the other party engaged in listening.
Here are a couple of questions you can ask yourself if you find that someone is not listening, or if you find yourself disconnected from a conversation.
I am saying all this because every now and then we all need a little reminder regarding our listening skills. To some people it is a natural thing, effortless, and to others it is a skill to be worked on.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this and if you have any additional tips for how to be a great listener. Feel free to leave me a message in the comment section.
Say a Prayer Tonight
I wanted to share this song with you today as I feel it's message is an ongoing one. We wrote it as a reminder that we should always be praying for those who have fought, and continue to fight for our freedom.l
Lest We Forget
What do you think of when you hear the word kindness?
If you look up the definition of kindness, here’s what you’ll find. The quality of being friendly, generous and considerate.
Sadly, there are a number of people who mistake kindness for agreeable or compliant.
I recently saw a post where a friend was expressing an opinion, in a very respectful way, only to see another person respond with “oh no, please be kind”. This response made me scratch my head for a moment. There was nothing about the post that was unkind. What I realized was that the opinion expressed in the post did not line up with the opinion of the respondent, therefore the respondent considered it unkind. How interesting.
Personally I see this as a good reason to not express personal opinions on social media (and so did this friend as it was shortly after this that they left social media all together).
This is where the phrase, “I guess we’ll just have to agree to disagree” comes in handy. We don’t have to agree with everyone out there, but we should still be friendly, generous and considerate, or in a nutshell…kind.
This is hardly a comprehensive thought on kindness, but it’s certainly a good start to a clearer understanding of exactly what kindness is, so as we move forward and we encounter someone who we may think is being unkind, maybe we can stop and think for a moment, is the person truly being unkind, or do I just not agree with them on this point.
Ironically there may be some out there that would consider this blog “unkind”, and to those I would simply say “we will just have to agree to disagree on this”.
Each and every one of us is influenced daily by forces seen and unseen. Sometimes we are aware of these influences and sometimes we are completely taken by surprise.
I am a wife, a mom, a nana, a daughter, a sister, an aunt a niece and a friend. Family, friendships and faith are things I place a high value on, in other words, relationships. I am looking forward to reaching out and connecting with you through this blog, and it is my hope that I can bring a glimmer of encouragement and hope as we embark on this journey together