You don’t have to be better than anyone else at anything, but you can be better than who you were yesterday.
How can you be the best that you can be?
First off, know yourself. Know who you are and what your strengths and weaknesses are. By knowing this you will know where to focus your attention and make every effort to grow in these areas.
Sometimes what we want to do and what we are good at may not line up, what do we do then? It’s great to have many aspirations, but knowing your strengths and weaknesses will help you to focus more on where you are gifted and maybe make the things that you would like to do but are not a strength more of a hobby than a career (so to speak)
For instance, I love writing, I love music, and I love cooking. I also love art but I’m really not good at it at all (but my sister is amazing at it). There is nothing wrong with me pursuing art for fun, as long as I am self aware enough to know that that isn’t a strength of mine I can enjoy it as a hobby. My strengths are more in the field of writing and music, so I focus more of my attention there. I do not have to strive to be just as good at art as my sister is because that is not my strength. Like I said, we don’t have to be better than anyone else, just better than who we were yesterday.
Our quest to be better than who we were yesterday requires a real self-awareness. Who am I, really? By having this self-awareness we know where we can grow in who we are to become a better person.
It’s not always going to be in an area of career or gifting that we may need to improve. Maybe we can afford to be a little kinder, thoughtful, empathetic, maybe that’s where we have room to grow. Maybe stepping out of our comfort zones to be a little more adventurous, or maybe growing in our personal relationships. There are so many areas that each of us can expand in our daily lives, and while only you will truly know where that is for you, others around you may recognize gifts, strengths and talents that you don’t, and sometimes even shortcomings. Be okay with trusted friends and family speaking honestly into your life if there is something that you aren't seeing (notice I said trusted friends and family).
A helpful tip in personal growth is who you are surrounded by. I love this quote by Mike Murdock, “go where you are celebrated, not where you are tolerated”. This is not to say you should surround yourself with yes men, you need to surround yourself with people who will celebrate your growth and not be intimidated by it, but that they can be honest enough with you to speak words of wisdom at any necessary time as well. If someone is negative and can only point out your faults/failures but cannot see the potential in you, then you might want to minimize time spent with this person. Some people are stuck in their own muck, and seeing someone else achieve their life goals only amplifies where they stopped growing, and this might cause them to want you to stay where they are at. Recognize the relationships in your life.
There is wisdom in the quote about judging the fish for it’s ability to climb a tree (see image below). it reminds me to acknowledge and accept the gifts that are in me, and don’t try to be someone that I am not.
I am a wife, a mom, a nana, a daughter, a sister, an aunt a niece and a friend. Family, friendships and faith are things I place a high value on, in other words, relationships. I am looking forward to reaching out and connecting with you through this blog, and it is my hope that I can bring a glimmer of encouragement and hope as we embark on this journey together